伤别离

时间如同白开水，把浓的冲淡，把热的变冷
于是在某一个时间点
总有一些事情要发生
偶尔想起那年的春天
有很多的泪水留在地铁站，广场
人群中没有人知道我的伤心
我们是最熟悉的陌生人

Quotes from "The Zahir"

Zahir, in Arabic, means visible, present, incapable of going unnoticed. It is someone or something which, once we have come into contact with them or it, gradually occupies our every thought, until we can think of nothing else. This can be considered either a state of holiness or madness.

While I was fighting, I heard other people speaking in the name of freedom, and the more they defend this unique right, the more enslaved they seemed to be to their parents’ wishes, to a marriage in which they had promised to stay with the other person ‘for the rest of their lives’, to the bathroom scales, to their diet, to half-finished projects, to lovers to whom they were incapable of saying ‘No’ or “It’s over’. To weekends when they were obliged to have lunch with people they didn’t even like. Slaves to luxury, to the appearance of luxury. Slaves to life they had not chosen, but which they had decided to live because someone had managed to convince them that it was all for the best. And so their identical days and nights passed, days and nights in which adventure was just a word in a book or an image on the television that was always on, and whenever a door opened, they would say: “ I ‘m not interested. I’m not in the mood.’

I do not regret the painful times; I bear my scars as if they were medals. I know that freedom has a high price, as high as that of slavery; the only difference is that you pay with pleasure and a smile, even when that smile is dimmed by tears.

Freedom. The freedom to be wretchedly alone.

The dark side of life

We had watched a lot of A1 programs since we installed the cable TV.
A1 is a adventure programe, reporting the world's most crazy people doing crazy things. From the program, we can see the twists and turns on their way, and how they had challenge the environment and themselves to make the dream come true. They had to endure the hardness of the journey and the loneliness and anxious inside. Most time we saw them set their teeth, plaining and pushing and pushing till they are at their limit of withstanding and burst into tears. The journey is not like what we saw on the photos about laughing and exciting and fulfillness. Everything seems perfect.

That is the dark side of life, which we all have to face by ourselves. No one can help you. Everyone has a A1 inside, but to make the A1 into reality is another story. Time changes everything, you start with passion, and later you doubt yourself and regret and then retreat halfway. That's how we surrender. Time can bend your knees, break you hearts and make you begging. How can we feel the extreme happiness without the hardships we had gone through during the journey.

Like the thorn bird, bitterness is the true meaning of life, for the transient rapture of being.

Dandelion

看到那个小本子的第一眼就喜欢了,黑色为基调,一个个小小降落伞正脱离了蒲公英迎风飞扬. 我突然就想到了那个电影<百万富翁的初恋>里头, 那个小女生和那个男生在夕阳金色的光里嘟着嘴吹着蒲公英, 温馨又幸福的感觉.
蒲公英在我的心里是和幸福相连的, 她们满满的开着, 就等那一瞬间一缕清风或者狂风都可以让她们的梦想起飞,飞向下一场风花雪月. 她们将随遇而安.

Inspiring thoughts

To Achieve Your Dreams Remember Your ABCs
Copyright 1991 By Wanda Hope Carter

Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits
Believe in yourself
Consider things from every angle
Don't give up and don't give in
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come.
Family and Friends are hidden treasures, seek them and enjoy their riches
Give more than you planned to
Hang on to your dreams
Ignore those who try to discourage you
Just do it Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier
Love yourself first and foremost
Make it happen
Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.
Open your eyes and see things as they really are
Practice makes perfect
Quitters never win and winners never quit
Read study and learn about everything important in life
Stop procrastinating
Take control of your own destiny
Understand yourself in order to understand others
Visualize it
Want it more than anything
Xccelerate your efforts
You are unique of all God's creations nothing can replace you
Zero in on your target and go for it!


Todays Thought

Ten Spiritual Tonics By Abraham L. Feinberg
1. Stop worrying. Worry kills life.
2. Begin each day with a prayer. It will arm your soul.
3. Control appetite. Overindulgence clogs body and mind.
4. Accept your limitations. All of us can't be great.
5. Don't envy. It wastes time & energy.
6. Have faith in people. Cynicism sours the disposition.
7. Find a hobby. It will relax your nerves.
8. Read a book a week. It will stimulate & broaden your views.
9. Spend some time alone. It gives peace, solitude, and silence.
10. Try to want what you have, instead of spending your strength trying to get what you want.

90/10 Secret by Rashid.A.V.
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%!
How? By your reaction.
Let's use an example.... You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school - she misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
You have a miserable day at work but are not sure why everything seems to go wrong. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did your daughter cause it? C) Did your colleagues cause it? D) Did you cause it? The answer is D.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are having. Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same, but ended differently.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret: If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the other driver ruin your day?
The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out?
You now know the 90-10 secret - apply it and you will be amazed at the results!

Glass and the diamond (ZT)

有个人到集市上想买钻石，一路上他看到很多漂亮的宝石，却都没有停留，一心一意要找他的钻石~

后来终于在一个摊位他看到了理想中的钻石，璀璨夺目，立刻心生喜欢，用高价购下钻石~

可是带回家后，虽然精心呵护，钻石的光芒居然与日俱减，一点点暗淡下来~
这个人很着急，想方设法想让它恢复原样，可是不管怎么擦拭，怎么努力，就是不见成效~
最后，钻石居然掉在地上碎掉了。。。这个时候，这个人才恍然大悟，那不是钻石，而是玻璃~

钻石怎么会变成了玻璃呢？！？！？！百思不得其解
其实很简单，钻石是不可能变成玻璃或者摔碎的~
会失去光芒，会黯淡，因为那本来就是玻璃啊！

一厢情愿把它当成钻石，花了很高代价买回家，然后像对待钻石一样精心呵护的人，是这个人自己啊！
玻璃就是玻璃，不可能变成钻石，不管你多希望或者认定它是钻石~
事物的真实情况是不可能依据人的主观意志而转移的，强求只会令人失望而已~
而虽然说付出的代价昂贵，可自始至终得到和失去的不过是块玻璃而已，有什么值得可惜难过得呢？

既然是自己选择的，就不能怨天尤人，只能无怨无悔。
与其觉得上当受骗悔恨不已不如早日看清真相，擦亮眼睛，攒够足够的钱去寻找自己真正想要的钻石~

在交易里，没有值不值得，只有愿意不愿意~

诚如在爱情里，没有对错，只有爱或是不爱而已~
zt from yangyang's blog.

There is no right and wrong in love and friendship, at one time you think they are priceless and precious than diamond, the other day you wake up to see everthing has changed and the love and friendship are nothing but some worthless stones. Hehe.
In that case, the only thing we should do is to continue our trip, try to find the next diamond, even they may also changed to stone some day, and beat your foot. That is life and how we struggle.

Pilgrimage

荒凉虽让人绝望，可是却孕育着绝处逢生。
这一路的风霜雨露，洗去我们心中的苦闷，给我们心的平和。
photo adopted from the web.